Happy 8th year anniversary Matt & Chi Lowe

We made it!! We celebrating all month long --8 years of marriage!! #blacklove is real, #goodmarriages STILL exist, and there's hope in #love for those who are patiently waiting... We want to share atleast 8 things we learned about love and marriage during our time together... But first.. a little about us.. Fun facts: 🖤 we met 9/2013, engaged 2/2014, married 4/2014 and STILL together 🙏🏾🙌🏾🥂🖤🖤🥳 🖤 We are 10 years apart 41 and 31 and we met at 22 and 32!! 🖤 I have four children prior to us marrying and my husband and my oldest daughter's age is four years apart!! 🖤 my husband became a grandfather of two children before he became a father of his own biological children Okkk sooo... 1. Love is the answer to being offended. We have learned that even in marriage, your spouse will upset you, disappoint you and hurt your feelings. And as God's beloved, our response to mistreatment in our relationship with our spouse is LOVE. We have to forgive quickly and reconcile immediately. We have to realize that when we mess up and sin before God, we expect the same love from our heavenly father so who are we not to give it to our spouse. 2. LOVE is a weapon that can shatter division and rebuild what has been broken. We have learned that, for example, in the heat of an argument, the best way to makeup, is making love to your spouse right then and there!! Forget about all thats trying to divide and seperate you and lean all the way into your spouse. You may not feel like it but once you start those angry emotions will go away!!And if you are not in a place to make that happen, try grabbing your spouses hand and began to pray with them. It's the best makeup session ever!! 3. LOVE doesn't keep records of wrongs done to them. We have learned you must not keep any logs, notes, memories of anything you've chosen to forgive your spouse for. The bible says, love keeps no record (1 Cor 13:5)... the Lord told me, true forgiveness is treating the situation as if it never happened. When we confess and ask for forgiveness, God remembers our sin no more (Heb 8:12)... forgive your spouse expeditiously!! 4. LOVE is an action word. We have learned that loving me is not in just spoken words but in action. If you love me, you are careful to consider and prioritize my needs above your own. If you love me, you are intentional about being patient with me instead of giving up when you've already waited too long to see lasting change. Love is in what you do not merely in what you say. 5. TRUE LOVE is unconditional. We have learned and STILL learning 😄🤣that true love doesn't mean, I'm gon love you when I feel you deserve it or only when you've been good to me. I'm gon love you especially when you don't deserve it. I'm gon love the HELL out of you, lol, literally!! The bible says, love covers... (1 Peter 4:8) 6. EYES OF LOVE I prayed and asked God to teach me how to love like Him and then I met my husband. One of the ways God taught me how to love was to discern with the eyes of love.. I noticed he had been hurt alot. Rejected and misunderstood. Taken advantage of.. he was damaged goods. He had alot of undealt with trauma. Our first argument was a red flag but I ignored it. It was almost like I felt the Lord wanted me to be patient with him and to love him. And that is what I did. Hasn't always been easy to do in my own strength but with God's grace helping me, we are making it through.. 7. LOVE IS... ..the story in the Bible about the prophet Hosea and the prostitute Gomer. Hosea was called to exemplify the relationship between God and Israel through his marriage to a prostitute. God was showing us what mercy and love looks like... ...the princess and the frog Disney movie...The moral of the story is that it is the affection of a man's true love — his princess — that reveals his true and higher nature. ... the story of the author who wrote about her real life love story of marrying a homeless man. read it: HOW TO FALL IN LOVE WITH A MAN WHO LOVES IN A BUSH by Emmy Abrahamson 8. ...#message ladies sometimes our demands and ideas of what we think we deserve may be the very shackles holding us back from ever having REAL LOVE.